You don’t have to be “kicking ass” or “making waves” to get noticed.
You don’t have to become extroverted or force yourself to be anything you’re not in order to make a difference in other people’s lives.
There is power in calm, kind, mindful work.
Think Helen Keller, Marissa Mayer, Audrey Hepburn, J.K. Rowling, Angelina Jolie… the list goes on.
Now, I’m not saying that you won’t have to be bold, or that you won’t have to be uncomfortable or face your fears to become successful, but you do not ever have to be someone you’re not. You just have to push yourself to your own limits, and then cross them. This doesn’t involve anything you’re not. That’s incredibly comforting to me.
This has been weighing on my heart recently. I’ve been trying to make myself known in the business community, but keep feeling like I’m getting trampled down by those who are more comfortable being in the spotlight. I know that I have a lot to offer, and I know that I am a leader- just not the same kind of leader that pops into mind at first thought.
I’ve been trying to fit in- but I realized that maybe fitting in isn’t what we’re meant to do- maybe we’re meant to be ourselves and carve our own way.
I am a listener, an observer, and I carefully craft every word I say or write before it comes out. I’m often perceived as being shy (and sometimes this turns into being labeled as stuck up)- but I’m not afraid to speak- I am more afraid of saying the wrong thing or saying the right thing too soon. I sometimes stumble over my words because my thoughts are going faster than my mouth can keep up with. I am intuitive and I can usually finish people’s thoughts before they’re done telling me them. If telepathy was a thing, I would so be signing up.
Why, then, have I been trying to fit into a role of being out-there, in your face, look-at-me-I’m-awesome… when I’m really not that kind of person? I’ve been doing it because I thought that was the only way to be successful and to help others.
Luckily for me, and others like me, I was wrong. I’m definitely valuable, and definitely helpful, but in my own way. I’m glad I realized this, so I can start shining my own light instead of desperately trying to light someone else’s candle.
The more I get to know many of the beautiful people my career has led me to connect with, the more introverts I meet. I think that online service based businesses draw introverts in because of the very nature of the work. You get to work from anywhere (aka: you get to stay home), you can choose to work alone (aka: you don’t have to deal with coworkers), and you get to choose literally everything about your business (aka: freedom!!). Introverts rule this marketplace, and that’s so empowering in a society where introverts are oftentimes frowned upon.
My challenge for you today is to evaluate where you are at, and who you are being. Are you seriously being yourself, or are you not? Even if you don’t know -who- you are just yet… that’s okay.** Just acknowledge if you’re trying to fill someone else’s shoes, or if you’re being true to yourself.
So here’s to being truly yourself even when that doesn’t seem to be what everyone else is doing!
**One of the reasons I was trying to be someone else when I first got started was because I wasn’t sure who -I- was… and I was just doing what I thought would work. Instead of wasting my time with that, I should have figured myself out first. It takes time, but meditation, journaling, and spending time doing things you love really helps. Be patient with yourself, and listen to your gut and intuition- they know what they’re doing, trust me.